Living the dream is a common saying in the FIFO world.
Sometimes it is said with a cynical tone to it. Meaning ; I’m working my butt off and not seeing the light at the end of the tunnel and I’m tired as hell. For our family it also means quality time and working towards our goals of building a house on our 9 Acres and travelling.
Mr T+T works a 2/1 roster and has been doing this for 4 years and before that his job involved being away for work for up to two weeks but with only a few hours notice. With his job now we know when he is going to be home which means we can make plans.
So many negative comments are made about FIFO life and it’s affects on people and families. FIFO life is not suited to everyone but it does have its good side.
Our week together
What does our week off look like and how do we make it work?
Yes it does take work but it really pays off.
Trying to cram everything in doesn’t work! Don’t expect your partner to do two weeks worth of jobs on their R + R. Try and choose three things that you want to do each R & R and they can be different each time.
This R & R has been spent achieving three of our goals below.
1. Getting all our beautiful children together for a family picture can be a challenge. Miss Moos daycare requested a family picture for their family wall. So on Saturday we all (minus our eldest son -21 who lives 5 hrs away and will have his own photo attached ) met at a park and set up the tripod and camera on timer and had some fun.
2. Before our sea change to a small city we lived in the country for 19 years.
So making sure Miss Moo understands where vegies, meat, eggs and fish really come from is important to us.
So yesterday we headed off to Bunnings to buy a new swing seat and some equipment to set up a small garden trolley for Miss Moo to help grow her own vegetables. We brought the small one below for $49 but there are loads of plans on Pinterest to make your own. For us atm time is valuable when Mr T + T is home but it is on our agenda to make larger ones later. Ok ladies please don’t condemn me but…. I actually find Bunnings relaxing and Miss Moo likes it too.
3. So many of our memories and great conversations have been made and taken place while sharing a meal at our table.
So on Friday night Mr T + T got his Jamie Oliver on and cooked his family famous – Dazzas chicken and we had a lovely family dinner.
Spending time near the ocean is something we all Enjoy. We spent time at one of our favourite spots on Friday – Cape Burney, which I wrote about on Friday Flutters this week.
Making time for romance and to enjoy each others company is important. For many years it was a conversation we had. Men and women are different and I’m not saying all women like flowers and romance but for me it matters. So receiving flowers and also drinking bubbly wine while watching the sunset are a tradition now. Getting some alone time with a two year old, teenager and adult children who love to pop by can be a challenge but it is do-able.
Im not saying that FIFO Family life is a walk in the Park. Mr T + T hasn’t been fishing in a while and some of the crappiest things often happen when he is away at work. Like our son Mr Wings (20) moving out of home and when we first found out Miss Teen had a boyfriend.
Sometimes some major decisions need to be made during work time. This isn’t just hard for me but also Mr T + T who wants to be here.
The most important thing is communication. Talk, txt, Skype and email each other. Do one of these things at least each day.
Most of all
Enjoy the moments