The weighted issue

It’s everywhere we go and if it’s not it is often the talk among people we know; weight loss.
The comments about our own weight/size and about other peoples weight loss journeys.
Should the journey to loving and accepting the body you live in be centred around how you feel more than how you look to others? 

Many of us have been on or are still on a journey to being able to think of things that we like about our bodies, rather than listing our dislikes. It really is a weighted issue that we need to be aware of for ourselves and as parents.

For myself the journey has been long and began years ago as a teenager where for many years I abused my body by starving it, using laxatives and exercising to extreme levels.
 It was something I had control of in an uncertain world and I was not going to let it go. 
If I could go one day with only eating one cracker I was triumphant. I was great at hiding it and really I can tell you right now that it isn’t that hard to fool parents and family into thinking you are eating. 
Eventually this part of my life came to a halt when I became very ill and the discovery was made that I had been starving myself. I received much needed help and started on the long road to beginning to like food without guilt, and ditching the scales in favour of how I felt and how my clothes fit. 

I still watch the biggest looser and cringe when they jump on the scales and publicly weigh in. I know that for some people it helps spur them on but for others it can become an obsession. I can honestly say I am not at the point where I think about food in a longing way, but I don’t hate food and obsess over exercise. 

How can you help be a good influence as a parent 

Remember that little comments such as: “Haven’t you had enough (food)?”, “That dress is getting a bit tight?”, “Maybe you should get a larger size (when trying on clothes)”, made often can stick.
Encourage heathy eating from the beginning with fresh food choices and eat together as a family.
Exercise together as a family when possible and encourage sport participation, but be mindful of how much children are doing. 
Take notice of the little things and pay/encourage compliments. It really can make someone’s day to say “That dress, shirt or outfit looks fantastic on you!”
Make meals that everyone likes by allowing family members to input into weekly menu, and encourage your children to cook, create and interact with food from a young age. 

Remember Loving the body you live in is a journey but we also need to be mindful as parents to model positive language.

Jules ❤️